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Aging

Transitioning to Silver and Beyond

LifestyleJan Correll6 Comments
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I never thought I would age.  I am serious.  Why for some odd reason, I thought the clock would stop for me!  Then reality hit me in the head, literally.  At 35, my hair began to gray.  I had some stress, but not a hard life.  I could not figure it out… aging prematurely!  So I did what any young female professional would do and I covered it!  My hair was important to me.  My hair framed my face and I thought it defined who I was.  So I did this FOR YEARS!  Until my 50th birthday approached when I said no more!  I was done.  I felt fake.  I was covering up who I was.  I was not supposed to still have this luscious head of almost black hair.  I was silver underneath.  I saw the dreaded line, “Morticia” every 3 weeks, and would examine her closely.  Is she gray or silver?  Due to the cost, I would push a color to 4 to 4 ½ weeks.  And on the rare occasion, when I had to, I would color my hair myself! 

At 49 and a half, I decided to embrace my hair for its true color.  My husband, the love of my life, who supports me in anything and everything, was all for it. He said go for it!  My son and daughter, who mean the world to me, said the same, “Do what you want!”  Well, I was not completely sure but almost sure.  I kept remembering my Nana (Italian Grandmother) saying that Italian women should not go blonde or gray… this is the same woman that did not like my curly “messy” hair!

One thing I did know from my observations in the mirror, “Morticia” was more than gray. She appeared to be pretty silver!  So I decided to go for it. I was going to be authentic, and everyone was going to see my silver strands.

I talked to my stylist and told him my plan.  He tried to talk me out of it because this impacted him too. After a long consult, with not a lot of choices, we proceeded towards my goal.  This was way before silver color was cool!!  After a long afternoon at the salon, I ended up, a platinum blonde, mixed with gray and I swear, my Nana, was rolling over in her grave.  My nieces and nephews called it “gronde!”  Lord have mercy, what did I do!!  At that point, there was no turning back.   So I cut off my shoulder length hair to a very short pixie cut.  I had not had a pixie cut since I was five years old and my Dad decided to play barber one afternoon. That’s another story that was a short-lived hobby for my dear Dad.

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Eventually, my hair grew out. Thankfully!  And I embraced it.  I got up in the morning and put my makeup on and it got to the point that I did not think about the color of my hair.  It was who I was! In fact, I loved it.   I was not allowing my hair color to define me.  I had many people and colleagues tell me how much they loved it. The fact that I was authentic and still looked so young!  Until one night… when a female colleague, albeit 10 years younger, told me that I looked old!  PAUSE.   “What”…as I choked on my red wine?  Why would one woman feel that they had the right to say that to another?    It took me down… I had to absorb it and ruminate on it.   I discussed it with family and close friends, thinking I may have made a mistake.  They told me what I knew in my heart…continue.    So I ultimately decided to kick myself in the butt and move on. I was a young at heart, spirited, smart, kind, stylish 50-year old that believed in herself and no one had the right to change my opinion.  She was entitled to her opinion, but I was also entitled to mine.  It was my HAIR!!

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Fast-forward, five years later, I purchased a few URLs and launched Silver is the New Blonde™, my fashion/lifestyle blog, in December 2015.  SITNB is my platform to show how great aging can be.  Staying young at heart, fashionable and learning to love, own and be the best version of yourself at 50, 60, 70 and beyond.     My goal is to help others see it’s OK to age and do it your way!I

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As a side note: Everyone is entitled to be his or her self, or to color his or her hair.  Gray or silver is not for everyone and that's ok!!  Thankfully views are changing and social barriers are dissolving, which makes this easier.   Aging will happen (whether we believe it or not), the millennials and boom-lets will have it happen, too. It’s time to come together and look at each person.  What can they contribute? When hiring, when marketing, when interacting, no one should be invisible.  We all matter…

If you are thinking of transitioning to gray or silver, now is the time.  It is cool, modern, fun, and can make life easy!  Today, colorists have the means to help you transition with beautiful silver colors!!  I have a habit of counting women that have transitioned or who are transitioning and not a day goes by without having seen 20 or more.   If I can help you in any way... please reach out!

As always, thank you reading and stopping by the blog.  My goal is to share authentic ageless style and relevant information as we share this journey together!  I so appreciate you, my friends and readers! 

XXOO

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I blinked and turned 60

LifestyleJan Correll1 Comment
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Last Sunday, I had a milestone birthday.  Yes, the big 6-0!  I thank god every day for this privilege and the fact that my loving family was here to help me usher it in.  They made a big event of it, which made me feel so special!  What more could a woman want, to be surrounded by a wonderful, loving husband of 43 years, a wonderful son and daughter, an equally wonderful SIL and DIL and four sweet grandchildren.  My Mom and two sister's and a BIL were there to help me celebrate. This is one I shall always remember!  They know me well and know I don't like surprises but around every turn, made the whole weekend special!  My kids and their spouses gave me tickets to a concert, I have always wanted to see and I have included pics below of some additional "special" gifts!

Hand sparkled by my 4 year grandson!

Hand sparkled by my 4 year grandson!

I don't tell you this to gloat, only to explain my thoughts.  You see I never thought I would be 60! I never thought I would age!  Do most young people think about what it will be like to age and hit birthday milestones?  I never did!  Maybe I was naive or thought it was too far off in the distance!  

A special Hot Wheels for racing, picked out by my 3 year old grandson!  This guy also made me cupcakes!!

A special Hot Wheels for racing, picked out by my 3 year old grandson!  This guy also made me cupcakes!!

A beautiful "J" scarf from a Sis!

A beautiful "J" scarf from a Sis!

What I will tell you and that many of you have experienced, is that it is wonderful and awesome to look back at what you have accomplished.  The challenges, the opportunities, the misses, the wishes, the hopes, the dreams and most of all the love.  OK... I promise not to be sappy but truly, if you are younger, talk to your elders, at 70, 80 and 90!  Ask them to tell you about their life, and truly listen!  

A precious gift from my Daughter completely personalized!

A precious gift from my Daughter completely personalized!

Another personalized gift my baby sis!!

Another personalized gift my baby sis!!

My hubby replaced some "special" earrings that were misplaced!

My hubby replaced some "special" earrings that were misplaced!

And a blanket from my SIL... personalized for me to a T (NSFW)... pretty awesome!!  

And a blanket from my SIL... personalized for me to a T (NSFW)... pretty awesome!!  

I blinked and then I was 60.  My babies now grown, are awesome human beings! Mr. Silver and I both have "silver hair," and are still in love (since high school.) But we are not slowing down and have many plans for the future.   Last Sunday on my birthday, I promised myself to relish every moment until I turn 70 and beyond and own it!  It's was harder to do when young with all our responsibilities; kids, jobs, spouses, parents, always caring for others.  But I can do this now!  And if you read my last post, about DVF... "I will never, ever lose myself."  Because I like me and in the end that is all that matters!  

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Her messy hair is a visible attribute of her stubborn spirit. As she shakes it free, she smiles knowing wild is her favorite color.
— J. Iron Word